Staying positive amid uncertainty is one of the hardest lessons I am learning. Letting go of worry is not my strong point, but a habit that I need to break. Being in control lets me feel calm and safe. And not knowing the ‘what’ and the ‘why’ and ‘how’ of my future make me uncomfortable.
How do I relax?
How do I create space for these feelings of uncertainty when they break over me like never-ending waves? Suffocating me. Taking my joy.
All I know is that I have to persist in the face of doubts. Just keeping on. Pushing through. Trusting that all will be well.
Or will I just succumb and spend the day crying in my bed…
Dealing with tough personal issues can be overwhelming and lead to numbness and not taking action.
I have learned that it is okay to flirt with sadness, but not start a relationship with it!
So this morning I had a good cry, got up when I felt better and did something good for me. For me only.
My spirits are lifted and I know that I am strong enough to get through this day…and the next…and the next.
I will rest in the knowledge that this too shall pass.
If you live with constant tension in your life, whether from work, relationships or health issues, it will really put a drain on your energy reserves. Finding ways to relax and recharge that works for you is essential.
Deep breathing, meditation, taking a walk in nature or along the beach, journalling or making your favourite beverage, are all things that work for me.
Most importantly I find that spending time alone, with no distractions does it for me.
This past week my daughter has been feeling a bit down on herself and I wanted to try and help her. Because I have been having so much fun with my own doodling and art journaling, I thought we could do something creative together. The end result was a morning spent collaging.
I collected some old magazines, glue and scissors and we were ready to get going!
I wanted the activity to really calm her, so I also played some relaxing music and had her choose the fragrance to put in the oil burner. She chose sandalwood, which smells wonderful. (But I now know gives me hay fever. I was sneezing the whole time!)
I don’t know who enjoyed it more: me or her! We engaged in some girl-talk and I think I got a more clear idea of what was bothering her. Her collage was mostly about things she saw that was beautiful to her: lots of flowers; and lots of yummy deliciousness: cakes, pies, strawberries, and ribs – her favourite! Mine is a definite mirror of where my mind is lately: colourful, crafty and nature.
Collage is a great activity for exploring feelings because it feels less threatening than other art activities like painting and drawing. My daughter tends to be a little perfectionistic and I didn’t want her to focus on not drawing ‘good enough’. I just wanted her to have a little fun and get us talking without being too serious.
I think collaging is a great way to engage with yourself or your child, it surely helped us work through some rough feelings.
What techniques do you use to work through some feelings after having a rough week?
I have been looking online for a little help on my art journalling. I always love to do a lot of research on a new project/interest and this Art Journalling is no different. I also have to be mindful to not let in stay in the research stage, because I can easily get stuck there and never go over and take some action!
But this little free course Give Your Dream Wings by Andrea Schroeder from CreativeDreamIncubator is really doing some magic for me.
She also wrote a wonderful post about working with energy containers for magic … read more here. Amazing stuff!
Every year I start of with the idea of following a theme. This year was no different. The theme I picked was Mindfulness. I called it “2015 Mindfulness”. Because, you see, I have picked mindfulness as my theme for the last three years and I wasn’t particularly successful at managing the practice at all. Hence the repeat action.
Practice makes perfect!
Or I should actually say: Practice makes progress. Has anyone else noticed that the saying has changed over the last few years? I think it is a great idea. I am making progress. And putting that endless amount of pressure on a person to be perfect is just unrealistic. Luckily this is something I have observed about myself long ago: trying to be perfect. Perfectionism follows me around like a little shadow and it creeps up every now and again as a silly reminder that I take myself too seriously and I need to calm down.
Be less anxious. Just do something.
It doesn’t have to be 100%.
It can just be.
Trying to be perfect is something I have dragged with me since childhood. I posed a question in a support group the other day, and asked for advice about something that was bothering me at the time. And out of all the answers the clear intention came out, that I should look to my past for the origin of this current issue. Because what I was dealing with at the moment was just symptoms of a much deeper challenge.
I have forever felt that I am not good enough, or that what I do is not good enough. I have had better times in my life where I have felt good enough as a person, but I guess lately the spiral has been turning back to the feeling of inadequacy. At least I know now that the spiral will turn again and take me to a better, higher place of understanding and acceptance of myself.
For now, I am off to go listen to some more Power Affirmations on YouTube. I found a good one by David McGraw here.
What do you do when you struggle with perfectionism?